Who will protect us now? The pandemic of the emasculated man
The female desire for an alpha male
In all the conversations I've had with women about their desires in a partner, assertiveness always comes up. They want a man who can take charge and lead. Although they may not explicitly mention it, they also desire a man they can proudly show off to their friends.
They want a man who makes them feel safe and whom they admire. Unfortunately, many women complain that finding such a man is becoming increasingly rare, almost like a relic of the past.
What women want
Understanding what women want in a man doesn't mean defining masculinity itself, but it certainly helps. The opposite of masculinity is femininity, and like the yin and yang, these forces coexist and complement each other.
What modern women yearn for is a genuine masculine essence, one that is gradually disappearing and becoming less defined. Its boundaries are becoming blurred, leaving women to fill the gaps in their relationships and pick up the slack.
When we think of masculinity or the alpha male, we often picture the lion, the leader of the pride.
What is true masculinity?
However, true masculinity goes beyond mere social dominance. It encompasses ambition, assertiveness, action, strength, and resilience.
The emotional nature of femininity craves these qualities. We are inherently different, which is why we often confuse and misunderstand each other. Yet, we are like opposing magnetic forces, drawn to each other. Therefore, by examining masculinity as the counterpart to femininity, we can gain insights into what it truly means to be a man.
True masculinity is on the decline
Unfortunately, this masculine essence is gradually declining. Men today are less assertive and lack the ambition they once had. They have become lazier and weaker. This weakness is evident in the increasing number of men who abandon their families and shirk their responsibilities, opting for the easier and more self-centered path. We witness it in middle-aged men whose lives revolve around their online personas, leaving their real-world existence almost nonexistent. Their actions are confined to a make-believe world, disconnecting them from true engagement in reality.
The challenges of today
However, the challenges we face today are undeniably real and extensively documented. The landscape of work has undergone significant transformations due to factors such as deindustrialization, automation, free trade, and prolonged periods of peace. Unfortunately, these changes have not favoured men, as the demand for physical labour has decreased, while the value placed on soft skills and academic qualifications has surged.
As a result, a considerable number of men in their prime working years have become detached from the labour market, with the most significant decline in employment observed among those aged 25 to 34. Even for those fortunate enough to have a job, wages have remained stagnant for most, with only those at the top experiencing substantial growth.
Women stride forward
Conversely, women have been making remarkable strides both in education and the workplace, further challenging the traditional notion of men as sole providers.
Women now outnumber men in terms of bachelor's degrees, with approximately 74 degrees awarded to men for every 100 received by women. Moreover, men account for over 70 percent of the overall decline in college enrollment. A TD Ameritrade survey conducted in 2020 revealed that nearly half of women reported earning more than or the same as their husbands or partners, a significant leap from the meager 4 percent recorded in 1960.
Simultaneously, changes in the domestic sphere have also had a profound impact. A Psychology Today article published last summer sparked controversy by highlighting the diminishing dating opportunities for heterosexual men as relationship standards become increasingly stringent.
Women no longer need marriage
With women no longer relying solely on marriage for financial security or even motherhood (as more choose to create families using reproductive technology), they have become more discerning in their choice of partners. This has resulted in a rise in the number of lonely, single young men who are more likely to live with their parents than a romantic companion.
Poor mental health for men in the society of today
Distressingly, men also account for nearly three-quarters of deaths caused by despair, encompassing suicides, alcohol abuse, and overdoses. While the past five decades have witnessed incredible progress for women, with the feminist movement empowering them and academia delving into gender studies and women's history, there has been a notable absence of a parallel conversation regarding the changing role of men in our world. Furthermore, the increasing visibility and recognition of the LGBTQ+ movement has added to the sense of instability and ambiguity surrounding gender dynamics.
How can we stop this pandemic?
We need the return of the true alpha male!
To lead, protect and provide. To allow the women to be their true feminine selves. To stand up to governments, corruption, control. To not be enslaved and to not allow their women and children to be enslaved by this society.
