Being an Independent Woman before Marriage.

     Being an independent woman or a woman with potentials is basically being a woman who supports herself on her own entirely and is proud to be able to do so could be seen as being independent. An independent woman knows what she feels, says what she really believes, and lives true to her own values. She owns her own power and looks out for herself. 

It is really embarrassing that we have so much prioritize marriage instead of life skills that the average woman wouldn't know what to do if she is not married or in a relationship.

I will open my inbox and see "please , my boyfriend just broke up with me after he promised to marry me...my boyfriend said if I don't do this he would not marry me... My boyfriend's mother is not in support of our relationship"

I usually ask for their age before I talk to them and when I do, I'll see "20, 21, 23," the oldest I have gotten is 25.

These women in their early 20's always have relationship problems. Not academic problem, not a problem with business ideas... but relationship problems!

Why? Because women have been told that their only contribution to the eco system is to reproduce.
We should be ashamed that a 21, 22, 23 years old is running out in church for prayers whenever they call out for singles who wants to get married.

We should really feel embarrassed that our sisters and daughters in their early 20's do not have a list of things they wants to do or achieve before 25, 30, 35 even 40.

How can a young girl not HAVE A LIFE LIST she ticks or work towards?!!!😰

Do you have a degree?
How many degrees do you have?
Have you worked under anyone before?
Have you served people so you can get inter personal skills?
Have you worked under pressure so you can learn time management and meeting deadlines?
Have you started a business on your own? Is your business registered yet?
Have you manage a business for one, two or three years on your own?

How much savings do you have?
Do you have a list of financial commitments?
What would you do when you get 50,000? 100,000, 200,000, 500,000, 1 million?

Do you know how to drive?
When do you intend to buy yourself a car or a piece of land?
Have you bought an expensive fashion item for yourself with your own money?
What's the largest amount you have saved for yourself?

Have you saved up to 1 million in your account? Have you experienced the feeling of looking at your account balance and seeing that the money there was your hard work and sweat?

How many states have you traveled to?
How many African countries have you traveled to?
Do you have a passport?
Have you visited an embassy before or filled a Visa form to know what it looks like?
Have you traveled by water? Train? Plane?
What handy skills do you have, what others would you like to learn?
Have you taken yourself to a 5star restaurant before?
Have you bought yourself a phone with your own money?

How many cultures of cultures have you experienced?
Have you been to a Cinema? A Zoo? An Art Gallery?
Have you appeared on a TV show?
Have you written articles for magazines?
Have you done something that got you recognized and awarded?

The list is very long.

Marriage is beautiful, it's worth it, but while you are waiting for marriage, make a list of normal life events,
Make a list no matter how stupid or foolish it is and every day, tick something out. These are the experience you might need to sustain a marriage or relationship.

Your experiences, your skills, and achievements are part of what you should bring into a marriage.