Grooming

I want to talk to you guys about grooming. Did you know that narcissists will meet a person and decide they want that person. They may even think they love that person. But the only way they know how to get a person is by grooming them. They will manufacture a ‘’soul mate’’ connection. They will mirror your likes and dislikes. They will essentially become all the best parts of you. Narcissists don’t have a sense of self, so they mimic who they are with. They do this on purpose because the only way they know how to get things in life is by manipulation. They form fake connections to manipulate you into the relationship. But it does not last. Once they have achieved their goal, they don’t want to work hard anymore. And you are left wandering, ‘’what the hall happened.’’ Where is the person I first met.’’ This also forms a trauma bond because they will be rejecting and then return to love bombing again. This cycling of up and down emotions form an addiction to the person. And that is how a relationship with a narcissist is created. (Remember love to a narcissists is merely infatuation. It superficial and it fades quickly)