The Root of Solving Low Self-esteem
Do you feel like you don’t deserve what other people deserve? That there is something wrong with you, that you’re inherently unintelligent, unattractive, weird….?
Mostly, that sense of low self-esteem comes from your childhood incidents between the ages of 3 and 12 that made you feel unconfident. Maybe someone told you at an early age that you are “ugly”, “stupid”, “fat” or any other ideas that now become what you believe you are.
Why this information is your next game-changer
You can get therapy or personal coaching for such emotional scars as you can do your own personal development healing. That’s why I am here to help you overcome low self-esteem by yourself. I am sharing with you in this article the very deep root of how to, this way you can fully understand from where the problem is coming and be your own healer instead of giving you superficial solutions.
The How-To
So, what I want you to understand first my friend, is that self-esteem and self-image are very related concepts, they are actually the same thing.
Self-image is an internal model of who you think you are, how you should behave, what your values are, how you see others as perceiving you, and the image you have about yourself in general. This image is just beliefs and a lot of them are subconsciously limiting beliefs in many ways!
Now that you are aware of what self-esteem really is coming from, I want you to:
Look back at your life and observe the events that caused current limiting beliefs
This part is going to help you in detaching from your current self-image by becoming aware of what happened and separating that from who you are since having low self-esteem mostly means you’re still attached to these as being you.
Work on changing that self-image
Self-image is very flexible, you can change it and create a new one to get yourself back to a high level of self-esteem. I have a whole blog on How to change your self-image
Start taking action
To help you in this part, what I found practical and efficient is the 6 pillars of self-esteem that Nathaniel Branden talks about in his amazing book Six Pillars of Self-Esteem. These are meant to make your life balanced and thus boost your confidence.
Without any further due, the 6 pillars of self-esteem go like this:
- Start living consciously: Are you mindful of your behaviors? Are you aware of the thought patterns you are constantly having?
- Practice self-acceptance: Do you or do you not accept yourself as you are? Are you always criticizing and judging yourself for not being better, smarter, or prettier… Or can you just be happy with who you are?
- Practice self-responsibility: Do you actually take responsibility for your life and acts? The good and bad parts, by that I mean the places where you feel like you are the victim. If not you’re gonna be stuck in the victim state then low self-esteem.
- Practice self-assertiveness: How assertive are you, especially when you are around other people? How assertive are you with your own values, principles, your philosophy, and goals? Do you believe they are something important and worth fighting for? Even in the face of resistance from others?
- Live purposefully: Do you have a purpose in your life? Do you have something that your life is about? Something important and greater than yourself
- Have personal integrity: Do you live up to your expectations of yourself or are you always faltering? Are you always being lazy? Are you keeping your promises to yourself? Are you living in line with your own highest values?
This guide is what constitutes the very root of low self-esteem, if you focus your life around the 6 pillars by implementing relevant routines, and habits plus rewiring your subconscious mind, then you will totally get over all issues of low self-esteem and finally live the life you deserve.
If you want more on this subject, I would be more than happy to share practices, tips, and habits you should implement to bring your confidence to the roof and start living beyond your expectations.
That would be it, be free to share your thoughts and intakes in the comments below.
